Is this Weird? : Facebook

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I was looking at Facebook (the greatest time suck ever invented) I was scrolling through the ribbon of people in the “People you may know” section when I realized I do not know about 95% of the smiling faces. I was saying, “I don’t know you, I don’t know you, I don’t know you, cute hair, oh I like that outfit, nice, still don’t know you….” on and on. Then it was “Oh, you look fun.” I click the picture and read the person’s profile. I see we read the same sorts of books and like the same sorts of movies. It struck me that, no I don’t know the person, but maybe they would like to know me. I mean we have a mutual friend and she likes me. I am amazing and all.

Is it weird to send a message to a stranger and say “You don’t know me but I think you would like me since so-&-so likes me”….?

Then I ask myself, what would you do if you got a message like that?

It would go something like, oh a message…..no..nope… I do not know you, stalker! Delete.

I think I will keep scrolling down the timeline on the off chance that the 5% of people I actually know may still want to talk to me.

Like I said, biggest time suck EVER invented.

I think it is time for a vacation from Facebook again.

~Lori O’Gara

Believe Love

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I believe in love, pure unconditional love.

Unconditional love that is always giving. It is a total commitment to seek your highest best no matter how anyone may respond. This form of love is totally selfless and does not change whether the love given is returned or not. This is the true form of love.

This is not romantic love. It is life saving love. This love feeds the hungry, shelters the cold, loves the unlovable, and concurs hate.  Love every soul on earth with this love.

~Lori O’Gara

Believe Unapologetically

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First statement of belief: As for me, I am unapologetically a Christian.

There is a trend these days of watering down your belief system to be politically correct, to appease society or as not to offend another person. I have never been one to diminish my beliefs to make someone else feel comfortable. I’m a Christian and I will not compromise on the core facts of Christianity.  Those were set by the example of Christ and they are: Love everyone. Serve those who need it most and deserve it least. Forgive. Seek peace. Do not judge. It is really that simple.

As a Christian, I do not write traditional Christian Fiction. I do not sugar coat or skirt around the ugly parts of reality.  I write fiction grounded in real life that quietly reflects the example of Christ. Read my novels, you’ll see what I mean.

~Lori O’Gara

 

Believe

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For those of you who are new here, I am so glad you have found me. I have been asked by a couple of you why is the word Believe on my cover photo. I realize that I have not clarified the reason. Believe is my platform because I believe if you do not take hold of a belief someone will attempt to force one on you. If you take that power from them and stand for what you believe as truth, you are in control of your heart.

For the next few days I will take each one of my statements of belief and expand on them. I will explain my life philosophy. I do not expect you, dear reader, to agree with all of them. I would be honored if you did, however, I realize my way of thinking is not typical Christianity. It is radically different.

As always, thank you for joining me on this revolutionary journey.

~Lori O’Gara

 

Connections

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The invention of Facebook and other networking sites are a marvelous thing. I think about why people are drawn to such places to begin with. Is it the ambiguous nature about them? We can, if we choose,  hide behind fake names and locations. At first I thought that must be it, the ability to hide from the real world who we are and change to what we want the world to believe we are. Fantasy and smoke screens. The more I observed what was going on with social media and looked at who was using it, it seems that staying anonymous is not why we flock to them.

More and more people are being true to their identities on these sites. Posting real pictures and real parts of their life for all to see. There is a shift from hiding to openness, but controlling who sees the inside of our lives. If someone hurts our feelings we simply delete them from our friend list. If someone is nice to us we add them. We share what we want them to know and keep our secrets to ourselves. I have 300 plus friends on Facebook and know about that many more. I feel emotionally connected to about 1/4 of them and the other 3/4 of them I feel happy to know. I use a real picture of me, but screen what I share very carefully. If  we can still make up things and control what we share, but the big question is why? Why do we find it easy to post who we are, what we really think and feel on a screen?

For me as a Christian and a writer, I love the concept of captive audience. I can share my words and maybe reach someone who I couldn’t actually speak to in real life. That is one reasons I keep a Facebook account. The other reason is the connection to family out-of-town. It’s good for that too.

Let’s not forget that Facebook is public. What we post on there is just as if we said it in a crowded room. If you won’t say it out loud in a room full of 300 people don’t post it…..really, think about it.  It is easy to think that somehow the screen shields us when in reality your friends are more apt to read what you post than to listen to what you say. So remember, if you wouldn’t say it to a person’s face don’t write it on a wall in cyber space where the world can read it.

Believe in connection.

~Lori O’Gara

Look Out For That Hole

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I found this quote on social media. When I read it I shouted, “yes that is it.” That is why I can’t fit my novels and words in a nice neat genre box. It is a struggle that myself and other writers have to contend with every time we sit at the keys to write. We all have stories and words spinning in our souls that we must release in to the world. Often those stories do not line up perfectly with convention. Add to the mix the Christian or other moral values of the writer and the societal narrative can get thread bare and distorted. We, as writers and readers should not allow society to mandate how we reflect the world in writing or in how we choose what we read.

My hope is that with my writing I create a framework to flip reality on it’s head and force ideas that question conventional thought. Yes I am a Christian. My thinking is simple. Jesus was a radical and I believe I can be one too.

Lori O’Gara