Sunday Thoughts: Choose Your Battles

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Choose your battles. Sometimes peace is more important than being right.

I have tried to be as transparent as I can. What you see here on this site and on my Facbook page is my digital fingerprint. I am who I am. I am not much of a mystery. What you see is what you get. I am not a drama queen. You won’t see me degrading someone in a comment section of any social media outlet. Even if I totally disagree with the opinion. I will try to express the truth in the situation without confrontation. There is so much negativity in the world these days and I am doing my best to keep it away from me.

I have decided to focus more on my inner being than looking at what is happening on the outside. I am writing everyday, which is challenging. There is this thing called life that gets in the way all the time. Oh and I have this other thing called a job that is necessary for other things like food and a roof.

I think that the battles we choose speak to who we are in our soul. What we fight for and about is what we value. If we value people we fight for them. If we value money we will fight for that. If we value love we will fight for love.

The question is how to balance what we value in our souls with what we need in our life to survive. Sometimes those two things do not match and are not compatible. I think peace is found when we make the important stuff in our being and the needed stuff for our survival the same things.

Something to think about during this time of year when the focus is on material things not always the important things.

~Lori O’Gara

 

You’re Positively Crazy

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71d1362479451069f4721930eda8e144--quotes-about-good-men-great-quotesToday I want to tell you that positive thoughts attract positive things.

I know some of you out there that are saying, “Oh great, here we go with some hokey positive thinking theory….yea yea we’ve heard it all before.” Hang with me a second, you are talking to a fellow skeptic here.

There has been a time or two in my life when I was desperate. Desperate for money.  My checking account looked like old mother Hubbard’s cupboard , it was bare. I don’t mean down to a couple hundred more like less than twenty.  One day in particular I had less that ten bucks to my name, a quarter of a tank of gas and no outlook for improvement.

A friend said, “Think positive. Thank God for what you need and live as if you already have it. Then thank God for what you already have. I promise you positive thinking will improve your situation. Trust me.” After I resisted the urge to call the men in the white coats to take my friend away ha ha…..I decided what do I have to lose?

Me being the skeptic rebel that I am, I prayed and thanked God for an exact amount of money, $40, (didn’t want to be greedy) and a half a tank of gas. Then I went to bed laughing at myself. I know as a Christian God doesn’t work that way. God is not some fairy or genie who grants wishes.

I filled my next day with positive thought.  When something started to go wrong I would not allow myself to think negative about it, I shifted my thinking. All in all it was a good day. No it was an amazing day. I was happy. I didn’t feel the stress that I normally feel when I am in a bad situation. I did not hyper focus on the bad things that could happen. I left the What If monkey in his box.

What made this day amazing? I was broke. I had no money, no gas to get home on from my job. I should have been devastated. I decided to look at what I did have, a job, a family and I was alive. Then I thanked God for it. Did my account amazingly fill with zeros? Nope. Did some magic happen to fix my situation? Well, sort of.

Long story short, I sold three books out of my car in a parking lot, like some literary drug dealer. I took the money and put some gas in the tank. That’s right you guessed it, I had a half a tank of gas and $40 dollars in my pocket at the end of the day.

I was not much better off, but I was better. What did happen is my belief in positive thought and prayer increased that day.  It happened in a way that all the talking my friend did the day before, could not. I learned from experience.

I can’t make you believe that positive thinking works. You have to discover it on your own, living through it. It will get better.  Trust me.

Believe in the power of positive thought.

~Lori O’Gara

 

 

Inspiration

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8c62fdfb94b70ed519b2ac5eaa01a446When I was in my teens and twenties my generation got our inspiration from bumper stickers, t shirts, and posters. The same Hang In There kitten hanging from a tree type quotes are now all over social media. Personally I think they are wonderful. Now, if people reading them would try to implement the positive ones into their lives and ignore the negative ones that would be better.  Inspiration can come from any where. There always seems to be the right words right there at the right time when you need it. If you scroll and you can’t find what you speaks to your inner peace, keep looking it will pop up in a second.

The problem with inspiration is it can be very persuasive and not always in a positive way. For instance, if you find out that your significant other is cheating, you may be inspired by one if the many artistic quotes to give him a Bobbit make over or the groovy Stella silent treatment. Have a little fire scarecrow. (For you whipper snappers, google….it is your friend.) None of those inspirations are very positive and may get you 5-20 in the state’s best accommodations. My advice, leave the vengeance to God and keep scrolling.

Seek inspiration that is positive. Save the quotes that inspire you to be a better person. If you read one and think, wow that is so very true and I can (choose one be/do/aspire to)  that then it is a keeper. If you read one and think, Damn sister I wouldn’t have shared that….then move along Sally.  Either way, use what the good Lord gave you for common sense and be selective. Share the positive…..oh c’mon…..just do it.

Believe in positive inspiration.

Peace out.

~Lori O’Gara

 

 

 

 

 

 

Monkey Chatter

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We all have monkey chatter in our brains. It is the constant mental monologue that happens when we are trying to live our lives. Monkey chatter can be and often is negative. We have heard all the self help guru terms, negative self talk, automatic negative thoughts, inner critic and others. It’s enough to make you depressed.  Pour me another cup of that happy juice why don’t ya?

William Porter, from the Perdido Key Novels,  is an exception. He has no monkey chatter. The cowboy from Tennessee has a control over his thoughts. It isn’t something that comes easy to him. He has to work on it.  He shifted his focus to God. As long as he keeps God in his brain and prayer in his fore thought, the monkeys stay in the shadows. Brianna Dario on the other hand is over run with monkeys. She can’t hear God’s still small voice for all the noise. She listens to the monkeys and as a result runs from love.

Controlling the monkey chatter is not easy. I have found that prayer works. Also, having a love in your life that reminds you what is important and what is simply not a priority helps kill the monkeys. Don’t waste your time on things that are not real.

Believe in what is important, keep your focus on what is real and trust love.

~Lori O’Gara

 

 

Believe is a Verb

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To believe is to act. It is not a passive thing to just believe in something. You have to act on that belief.  Before you can act on your beliefs you must have something substantial to believe in and make a commitment to it.

The Latin term notitia means “believing in the data” or the information. It’s an intellectual awareness. You can’t believe in nothing; there has to be content to the belief. Once you have decided what exactly you are going to believe in, you then have to put your trust in that belief. Once you trust something as truth you can act on the truth.

Fiducia refers to the fiduciary commitment. You can’t believe without commitment to your beliefs. Our cowboy, William Porter, who we meet in We Will Get There,  is the embodiment of commitment to a belief in God. He made a promise to God and he honors it because of his loyalty to his chosen belief. The very act of dedicating one’s self to a belief is the first action in believing.

Don’t be one of those people who say, “I believe in…” this or that and then show no devotion to that belief. This type of person’s beliefs are faltering and ever changing. No one trusts a person like that. They are the people who follow the latest trend but never stand for anything real. They are gullible and believe anything that their friends are believing. They are wishy washy and flighty. They bring stress to those around them. They them self’s find it difficult to be at peace.

Decided what it is you will believe in, make a commitment to it and then act in the best interest of that commitment.  Wrap your soul and your life around your beliefs. If it is right your institution will tell you so. If it is wrong you will know that too. Believe in goodness and in what is right.  Be a trust worthy believer.  Believe in what makes your heart happy. Listen to your soul.  Then take that belief and act on it in truth and compassion. Bring peace to your life and to those you love through your commitment of belief.

Believe in commitment to the truth.

~Lori O’Gara

In the Pursuit of Happiness

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In Amlost There the main character Brianna Sabine Dario has the belief that she is not worthy of happiness. Throughout her story we see her pursue it and when she gets close to attaining joyful peace she bolts away.

How many of us can relate to the feeling of not being worthy? We sometimes wallow in the difficult situations in our life because we feel we do not deserve better. We laminate over the sadness and accept it as just how life is meant to be.

This is a device of evil. We can and should embrace the happiness no matter what is happening to us. Even if the world is crashing down on us if we grab that one thing, that one blessing that makes us smile, we will come through the storm succeeding.

Believe that you are worthy and deserve happiness. Fervently pursue it and do not settle for less.

~ Lori O’Gara