Goals Not Resolutions

I dislike New Year’s resolutions. How many times have you made a resolution that ended in a fiery disaster? It is not your fault. Resolutions are a form of “cultural procrastination,” according to Timothy Pychyl a professor of psychology at Carleton University in Canada. Humans assume willpower is a character trait that you’re either bornContinue reading “Goals Not Resolutions”

Why I don’t Use a Pen Name

There are several legitimate reasons to use a pen name. Let me say upfront, I am not criticizing the reasons other writers choose to use a pen name. You probably know the reasons, there are many. The two biggest ones are to protect a writer’s family and freedom or embarrassment. I hear things that goContinue reading “Why I don’t Use a Pen Name”

Don’t Apologize for Being Happy

“green coconut tree during daytime” by Jorge Vasconez on Unsplash I have an amazing life. It is full of love and happiness. No I am not wealthy. I often have very little in my checking account. I am not famous, at least not yet, however, I keep writing what I want to write. I live inContinue reading “Don’t Apologize for Being Happy”

Call Me

or How to Be Approachable My friends ask me all the time why my actual phone number is posted on my Facebook page. “Aren’t you scared of hackers or scammers?” Well, yeah. I am also scared of earthquakes, snakes and over sized paper clips. When my life imploded and I came out of the otherContinue reading “Call Me”

The Collateral Damage From “I’m Fine”

It has been years now since I removed myself from a toxic relationship with an addict who chose to stay addicted to alcohol and drugs. He chose his lifestyle over everything else, including me. Only now, with the lens of hindsight can I see what I ignored and chose not to see. I was foolingContinue reading “The Collateral Damage From “I’m Fine””