Valentines Day, so What?


A person asked me today what gift I got for Valentines Day. When I told them my significant other fixed my lunch for me before I went to work, he smiled at me and asked me how my day went when I got home and he told me that he loved me. The person said to me, sounds like a normal day, not a Valentines Day gift? Yeah, so?

As I look at all the Valentines Day posts on social media I am struck by the conformity of the holiday. I am not talking about the commercialism of the thing promoted by card companies, florists, and jewelers. Rather the mind set that because it is Valentines Day one must get a gift for their chosen special person. Really? I say, why wait for a made up holiday to let the most important person in your life know that you love them? Tell them today.

I would much rather have a my love tell me how important I am to him or have him express it by his day to day actions than for him to make a show of our relationship by sending an obnoxious bouquet of flowers that will be dead in a few days anyway.

How about doing all the little things that you did while you where pursuing the one you now have. If you are still new and are still wooing them, do not stop once you catch them.

For example, he texted me with this, “13140 days and counting…” When I asked him what he meant he said, “That’s how many days we have had love in our hearts for each other.”

That, my friend, is a gift, holiday or not.

~Lori O’Gara

Sunday Thoughts: Church Door Thumpers


Matthew 18:20 (NRSV) “For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.”

I am wondering why some people think that every time the church door opens that they have to walk through them.  I have seen so many people who think that if they go to church then they are good with God. Then to insure that they are indeed in the good graces of the almighty, they force their children to be there every single time too.

Let me enlighten you, going to church does not make you a Christian.

I understand the keep the Sabbath Holy commandment. I respect it and I honor it. Even that doesn’t say you have to be in Church building to keep it holy.  I have read the verses that are quoted about meeting together and hearing the scriptures. I agree that it is very important to meet with other Christians, study, praise and pray together. Even so, nowhere does it say that any of those things have to be done in a church. Nor does it have to be in any sort of service format. What’s wrong with meeting at the beach or in a home? The Christians make the church not the building.

Christians, do yourself a favor, if you want to go to church go, but do not force it on others.  While you’re at it stop beating yourself up with guilt about not going.

Love God, love each other, worship, fellowship together and invite the Holy Spirit to join you. No guilt allowed.

~Lori O’Gara



Announcement: Please Wait

You might see my second book Almost There  listed on Amazon, it’s not available yet. This is a place holder.  Please wait! Don’t purchase from third-party sellers, they can’t get a copy either, so you’ll pay them more and wait longer. Amazon is working on the issue. Thank you! 

~ Lori O’Gara 

Power of One

As of 10 p.m. tonight, I have written three complete novels. One is published and two have release dates. It is a miracle that I accomplished in less than two years what I was unable to accomplish for many years before. There is one difference. I have the mental support that everyone tells you that you should have but you think you can do it on your own.  Well let me tell you I am proof that with the right person in your corner you can do amazing things.

All it really takes is that one person to have your back. That one person to make sure you eat and get enough rest. That one person to let you cry when the words won’t come. That one person to slap you (figuratively) back into your right mind when you feel sorry for yourself.  That one person who will tolerate your tantrums. That one person to celebrate with you when you reach your goals. That one person to be the strength when you are weak. That one person to be your voice when you have none. That one person to keep the faith. That one person to be proud of you and who lets the world know it. That one person to love you through it all.

Believe in the power of one.

~Lori O’Gara


Now at Hawsey’s Book Index

We Will Get There is available at the historic Hawsey’s Book Index located  in Pensacola Florida.  If you find yourself on Navy Blvd headed to Perdido Key on vacation or just to the beach for a day of fun. Stop in to see Dinah and the girls.

If you are looking for a book you can’t seem to find anywhere, Hawsey’s is the place to check. They have new and used, best sellers and classics and everything in between.

Check them out, click here!


~Lori O’Gara


Love = Inspiration

I was asked recently what inspires me to write? The first thing that popped in to my head is that people inspire me.  People in all their crazy mixed up emotions. Then after I thought about it, love and compassion inspire me. Not just the existence or demonstration of love but the lack of it. I write about love that is pure without an agenda and I write about pseudo love that has an agenda, mission of greed or need for control in the name of love.

17424734_1464385983580101_3797682253470795205_nLove is actually quite easy, that is if we remove the conditions. You cant make people really love you‚ all you can do is love them with no expectations and no conditions. The strange thing is, what you give comes back. It often isn’t how you thought it would be however it does come back. If you can live with what it really is you will not feel so alone or incomplete.

If I can shine a light on the fact that the giving of pure unconditional love is the answer to most of our  problems, deepest hurts and relationship issues in life, then I will continue to write.

Believe in the radical power of love and here’s a thought, love everyone unconditionaly. Period.

~Lori O’Gara

In the Weeds

Now that the first of the Perdido Key Novels is released in to the wild I am pecking away in the weeds at number three, There and Back. In this installment we will see that Mr. William Porter is put to the task to save yet another damsel from an evil force. Mr. Porter doesn’t see himself as a hero, but everyone who knows him would disagree with that.  He is trying to do what is right. Oh my, and that hat. I should give it a name!

The second book is finished and in the hands of my editor J.B. Garner.  OK, I say finished, it is in a decent third draft state, but not finished. Garner and I are about to begin the dissecting surgery of the editing process. In Almost There we jump several years in to the time line and meet a very adult Briana Dario with some interesting drama in her life. You will get a snipet in the epilogue of We Will Get There (WWGT, as I have affectionately started calling it.) So let me know what your impression is of her. I think she is amazing.

As always, I welcome your comments and emails. I respond to them all.

Happy Reading!

Lori O’Gara